Sexually Exploitation

The negative publicity generated by the anti-porn mass boycott of E-tv is beginning to take effect. Apparently, advertisers are also concerned about the channels anti-family programming schedule.  

Alarmingly, E-tv has revealed two conflicting and very deceptively different faces in their response to this issue – one to the Christian complainants and the media, and another to their advertisers.

E-tv’s standard response to the thousands of Christians who lodged complaints about “Naked News” and other pornographic content on the channel was an arrogant defence of their “right” to abuse freedom of expression to sexually exploit women & expose children to harmful content.

In sharp contrast, and in response to the cancellation of an advertising campaign on the channel, E-tv shockingly claimed to be a channel of “high family values.”  In their bizarre response to the agency, E-tv apportions blame to outside forces and claims a “pro-family” programming schedule.

Nothing can be further from the truth! E-tv has deservedly earned the reputation of a “tacky” and “sleazy” broadcaster – even from liberals. In fact, the channel has consistently been anti-family.

But it appears E-tv’s pro-pornographic programming schedule has already offended some of their advertisers and consequently threatened their much needed advertising revenue.

And there is nothing like an exodus of advertisers to challenge the channel’s anti-family policies.

Many Christians have called for a targeted boycott of products advertised on E-tv. Perhaps writing to these companies warning about advertising on E-tv will apply more pressure on the channel.

A list of products & company’s advertising on E-tv was posted on the FPI Facebook page. Please take the time to write to these company's about E-tv’s harmful and anti-family programs.

I am not convinced by E-tv’s sudden family-friendly about turn. This is obviously a desperate attempt to retain their advertisers and more significantly - exposes the channels Achilles heel.     

You and I must maintain the pressure and send a clear message to E-tv and other broadcasters that the Body of Christ will not relent in its quest to clean up our airwaves to protect the family.

The good news is the negative publicity generated by the E-tv anti-porn campaign is beginning to impact the channel. I will request an undertaking from E-tv management confirming they will cancel all sexually explicit content and adopt a more family-friendly approach to broadcasting.

Until we have that, let's maintain the pressure on E-tv by warning their advertisers of the boycott.

FPI Out & About   

I was privileged to speak at the “Rahab Rope of Hope” Conference at Worcester Christian Church in Worcester, in the W/Cape on 3 June. Pastor Johan Schoonraad leads a dynamic Church there.

I met with Deputy Provincial Commissioner of Police, Major General Sharon Japhta at SAPS HQ in Cape Town on 6 June to discuss our work to rescue women & girls from prostitution & trafficking.

On 10 June I met with Deputy Minister of Home Affairs, Fatima Chohan at Parliament to discuss legislation to block internet pornography as well as porn on national free-to-air television.

On 15 June FPI convened a strategic meeting with the City of Cape Town, the Provincial Dept of Social Services, SAPS and Christian ministries involved in rescuing women from prostitution.

Arlene and I travelled to Kimberley on 17 June where I shared the vision of FPI with Pastors on 18 June & preached at City of Hope Church in Kimberley for Ps Andre & Desire Venter on 19 June.

On 21 June I attended the Home Affairs Budget Vote in Parliament and later, a preview screening of the movie “Trust” hosted by the Film & Publication Board at the Waterfront in Cape Town.

FPI in the Media

I participated in several radio and press interviews in response to the Broadcasting Complaints Commissions ruling that found 'nothing wrong with women stripping naked on national TV.'

See Business Day article here.:

(http://www.businessday.co.za/articles/Content.aspx?id=146525)

 And The Citizen article here.:

(http://www.citizen.co.za/citizen/content/en/citizen/local-news?oid=193083&sn=Detail&pid=800&Naked-news-abides-by-standards--BCCSA)

Errol Naidoo 

Family Policy Institute

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You are never alone

A prayer that shocked the world

When minister Joe Wright was asked to open the new sessions of the Kansas Senate, everyone was expecting the usual generalities, but this is what they heard:

''Heavenly Father, we come before you today to ask Your forgiveness and to seek Your direction and guidance. We know Your Word says, ''Woe to those who call evil good.'' but that is exactly what we have done. We have lost our spiritual equilibrium and reversed our values.

We confess that:

We have ridiculed the absolute truth of Your Word and called it Pluralism.

We have worshipped other gods and called it multiculturalism. We have endorsed perversion and called it alternative lifestyle.

We have exploited the poor and called it the lottery.

We have rewarded laziness and called it welfare.

We have killed our unborn and called it choice.

We have shot the abortionist and called it justifiable.

We have neglected to discipline our children and called it building self-esteem.

We have abused power and called it politics.

We have coveted our neighbor's possessions and called it ambition.

We have polluted the air with profanity and pornography and called it freedom of expression.

We have ridiculed the time-honored values of our forefathers and called it enlightenment.

Search us, Oh God, and know our hearts today; cleanse us from every sin and set us free. Guide and bless these men and women who have been sent to direct us to the center of your will. I ask it in the Name of Your Son, the living Savior, Jesus Christ. Amen.''

The response was immediate. A number of legislators walked out during the prayer in protest. In six short weeks, Central Christian Church, were Rev. Wright is pastor, logged more than 5,000 phone calls with only 47 of those calls responding negatively. The church is now receiving international requests for copies of this prayer from India, Africa, and Korea. Commentator Paul Harvey aired this prayer on The Rest of the Story on the radio and received a larger response to this program than any other he has ever aired.

With the Lord's help, may this prayer sweep over our nation and wholeheartedly become our desire so that we again can be called one nation under God!

SA Turn to God!

a Challenge

Attempt something so big, that if God is not part of it, it will not succeed.

How can it be?

AMAZING LOVE... how can it be, that You my King would choose to die for me?

My King!

Jesus throughout the Bible

In Genesis He is the Seed of the women
In Exodus He is the Passover lamb
In Deut eronomy He is the Profit as unto Moses
Leviticus He is our high priest
In Numbers He is the Pillar of Cloud by day and the Pillar of fire by night
In Joshua He is the Captain of our salvation
In Judges He is our Judge
In Ruth He is our Redeemer
1 & 2 Samuel He is the Trusted Prophet
In Kings & Chronicles He is the Reigning King
In Ezra He is the Rebuilder of broken down walls in human life
In Esther He is our Mordecai
In Job He is our ever-living Redeemer
In Psalms He is the Shepherd
In Prov & Ecl He is Wisdom
In Song of Solomon He is our loving Bridegroom
In Isaiah He is our Prince of Peace
In Jeremiah He is our righteous friend
In Lamentations He is the Weeping Prophet
In Ezekiel He is the Wonderful 4-face Man
In Daniel He is the Man to lighten fire furnace
In Hosea He is the Faithfull husband for every marriage to the backslider
In Joel The Baptiser of the Holy Ghost & fire
In Amos He is our Burden Barrier
In Obadiah He is mighty to save
In Jonah He is our Missionary
In Micah He is the Messenger of beautiful feet
In Nahum He is the Avenger of God’s Land
In Habakkuk He is God’s Evangelist crying: Revive thy works in the midst of the of the years
Zephaniah He is our saviour
In Haggai He is the Restorer of God’s lost heritage
In Zachariah He is the Fountain that opened up in the house of David for sin and uncleanliness
In Malachi He is the Son of righteousness rising with healing in His wings
In Matthew He is the King of the JEWS
In Mark He is our Servant
In Luke He is the Son of man, feeling what you feel
In John He is the Son of God
In Acts He is the saviour of the world
In Romans He is the righteousness of God
1 Corinthians He is the Rock
2 Corinthians He is the triumphant One giving victory
In Galatians He is your liberty - He sets u free
In Ephesians He is the Head of the Church
In Philippians He is your joy
In Colossians He is your completeness
1 & 2 Thes He is your hope
1 Timothy He is your faith
2 Timothy He is your stability
Philemon He is your benefactor
In Titus He is truth
In Hebrews He is your perfection
In James He is the power behind your faith
1 Peter He is your example
2 Peter He is your purity
1 John He is your life
2 John He is your pattern
3 John He is your motivation
In Jude He is the foundation of your faith
In Revelation He is your coming King

Christmas

There is just something about Christmas that unifies the world… think about it for a minute… whether u believe in Jesus or not - For at least a few days, most part of the world knows that we as Christians celebrate the birth of our beloved Jesus.  And HIS name is on everyone’s minds….

(Christmas = mass people hear about Christ)

a Word in Season

This is what the LORD says ...

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.

See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness

and streams in the wasteland.

The wild animals honor Me, the jackals and the owls, because I provide water in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland, to give drink to My people, My chosen, the people I formed for Myself that they may proclaim My praise.

Isaiah 43:18-21

Toxic Porn, Toxic Sex

A Real Look at Pornography!

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Find freedom from porn addiction - See the 9 lies of pornography and how to break free.  By Gene McConnell

Pornography addiction...sex out of context

On a cold, dark night, there's nothing better than a blazing fire in the fireplace. You can pile on the wood and let it burn nice and warm. It's safe, warm, relaxing and romantic. Now take that same fire out of the fireplace (which was built for it) and drop it in the middle of the living room. Suddenly it becomes destructive. It can burn down the whole house and kill everyone inside. Sex is like that fire. As long as it's expressed in the protective commitment of a marriage relationship, it's wonderful, warm and romantic. But porn takes sex outside that context.

It's a big business that makes a lot of money and doesn't care how. They'll show you whatever they think will make you come back and buy more. "There were 11,000 porn video titles last year versus 400 movie releases from Hollywood last year...[and] 70,000 pornographic web sites."1

What Fuels Porn Addiction

One of the most vital parts of mental environment is a healthy idea of who we are sexually. If these ideas are polluted, a critical part of who we are becomes twisted. The porn culture tells you that sex, love and intimacy are all the same thing. In porn, people have sex with total strangers -- people they just met. All that matters is my satisfaction. It doesn't matter whose body I'm using, as long as I get it. Porn gets you to think that sex is something you can have anytime, anywhere, with anyone, with no consequences.

To Find Freedom from Porn Addiction: Recognize the Lies

You can't learn the truth about sex from pornography. It doesn't deal in truth. Pornography is not made to educate, but to sell. So, pornography will tell whatever lies attract and hold the audience. Porn thrives on lies -- lies about sex, women, marriage and a lot of other things. Let's look at some of those lies and see just how badly they can mess up your life and attitudes.

•Lie #1 - Women are less than human

The women in Playboy magazine are called "bunnies," making them cute little animals or "playmates," making them a toy. Penthouse magazine calls them "pets." Porn often refers to women as animals, playthings or body parts. Some pornography shows only the body or the genitals and doesn't show the face at all. The idea that women are real human beings with thoughts and emotions is played down.

•Lie #2 - Women are a "sport"

Some sports magazines have a "swimsuit" issue. This suggests that women are just some kind of sport. Porn views sex as a game and in a game, you have to "win," "conquer," or "score." Men who buy into this view like to talk about "scoring" with women. They start judging their manhood by how many "conquests" they can make. Each woman I "score" with is another trophy on my shelf, another "notch" in my belt to validate my masculinity.

•Lie #3 - Women are property

We've all seen the pictures of the slick car with the sexy girl draped over it. The unspoken message, "Buy one, and you get them both." Hard-core porn carries this even further. It displays women like merchandise in a catalog, exposing them as openly as possible for the customer to look at. It's not surprising that many young men think that if they have spent some money taking a girl out, they have a right to have sex with her. Porn tells us that women can be bought.

•Lie #4 - A woman's value depends on the attractiveness of her body

Less attractive women are ridiculed in porn. They are called dogs, whales, pigs or worse, simply because they don't fit into porn's criteria of the "perfect" woman. Porn doesn't care about a woman's mind or personality, only her body.

•Lie #5 - Women like rape

"When she says no, she means yes" is a typical porn scenario. Women are shown being raped, fighting and kicking at first, and then starting to like it. Porn teaches men to enjoying hurting and abusing women for entertainment.

•Lie #6 - Women should be degraded

Porn is often full of hate speech against women. Women are shown being tortured and humiliated in hundreds of sick ways and begging for more. Does this kind of treatment show any respect for women? Any love? Or is it hatred and contempt that porn is promoting toward women?

•Lie #7 - Little kids should have sex

One of the biggest sellers in pornography is imitation "child" porn. The women are "made-up" to look like little girls by wearing pony tails, little girl shoes, holding a teddy bear. The message of the pictures and cartoons is that adults having sex with kids is normal. This sets the porn user up to see children in a sexual way.

•Lie #8 - Illegal sex is fun

Porn often has illegal or dangerous elements thrown in to make sex more "interesting." It suggests that you can't enjoy sex if it isn't weird, illegal or dangerous.

•Lie #9 - Prostitution is glamorous

Porn paints an exciting picture of prostitution. In reality, many of the women portrayed in pornographic material are runaway girls trapped in a life of slavery. Many having been sexually abused. Some of them are infected with incurable sexually transmitted diseases that are highly contagious and often die very young. Many take drugs just to cope.

Bottom Line of Porn Addiction

Pornography makes a profit from the ruined lives of young women and entraps men who will spend lots of time AND money succumbing to their product.

We might think that the things we see and hear don't affect us. Yet we all admit that good music, good movies and good books add a lot to our lives. They can relax us, educate us, move us or inspire us. Just as uplifting media can benefit us, pornographic images can negatively affect us.

Images are not always neutral. They can persuade us. Businesses know that if they can get a persuasive image of their product in front of you during a highly emotional moment, it will sink into your subconscious mind. The advertising scientists are so good at what they do, they can predict just how much more of their product you will buy if you see their ad. Sometimes, viewers don't even see the name of the product. Reeses Pieces paid a huge price just to have their candy shown for a few seconds in the movie "ET," and sales of Reeses Pieces skyrocketed. Why? Because the emotions connected with watching that small boy reaching out to the alien were transferred to the visual image of the candy. If a split second view of a product -- even when it's not the center of attention -- can affect people's behavior, imagine the effect of a movie that keeps your attention glued to the screen for an hour and a half with sexually explicit images.

What are the effects of pornography on a man?

What kinds of ideas is porn putting into our heads? If the wrong things keep getting dumped in, your mental environment can get so polluted that your life is going to have problems. One of the most vital parts of mental environment is a healthy idea of who we are sexually. If these ideas are polluted, a critical part of who we are becomes twisted.

Porn Addiction: The Pull of Pornography

Not everyone who sees porn will become addicted. Some will just come away with toxic ideas about women, sex, marriage, and children. However, some will have some kind of 'emotional opening' that allows the addiction to really grab hold. The porn companies don't mind at all if you become completely addicted to their product. It's great for business. Dr. Victor Cline has divided the progress of addiction into several stages; addiction, escalation, desensitization, and acting out. For porn addicts, I've found that there is another stage that comes first -- early exposure. Let's look at these stages:

EARLY EXPOSURE

Most guys who get addicted to porn start early. They see porn when they are very young and 'it' gets its foot in the door.

PORN ADDICTION

You keep coming back to porn. It becomes a regular part of your life. You're hooked and can't quit.

ESCALATION

You start to look for more graphic pornography. You start using porn that disgusted you earlier. Now, it excites you.

DESENSITIZATION

You start to become numb to the images you see. Even the most graphic porn doesn't excite you any more. You become desperate to feel the same thrill again, but you can't find it.

ACTING OUT SEXUALLY

This is the point where men make a crucial jump and start acting out the images they have seen. Some move from the paper and plastic images of porn into the real world, with real people, in destructive ways.

Porn Addiction: Am I Addicted?

If you see any of these patterns in your life, you need to put the brakes on right now. Is porn becoming more and more in control of your life? Do you have trouble putting it down? Do you keep going back for more?

Porn Addiction: What Can I Do?

The first thing you've got to do is admit that you struggle with pornography. Millions of men are at various stages in the struggle with porn. It's really not surprising. The porn industry has spent billions of dollars trying to snare you. Is it really shocking that they have succeeded? For some of you there may also be issues in your past, such as abuse or sexual exposure, that makes porn addiction even harder to shake. There is only so much you can do in fighting addiction without help.

You need someone to help you break this addiction. Overcoming the secrecy is absolutely vital. You probably can't escape addiction without it. That doesn't mean everyone has to know you're struggling. Pick someone you can trust who counsels men who are having problems with addiction -- a pastor, youth group leader or counselor. Someone you can completely trust, feel safe with and has experience in the area of addiction isn't going to be surprised.

Is There Any Freedom from Porn Addiction?

Pornography entraps you with lies. In contrast, God can lead us into truth. Jesus said, "If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." Those who heard Jesus say this were offended and countered, "We have never been slaves of anyone, how can you say that we shall be set free?" And Jesus explained that people are enslaved to sin, but that He can set you free.

Sin not only enslaves us, but it distances us from God. And no one is perfect. No one is righteous in God's eyes. Instead we're told that "We all, like sheep, have gone astray, each of us has turned to his own way." We all deserve God's judgment and punishment. Yet God, who is holy and loving, provided a solution for our sin, so that we would not have to be justly condemned. He personally took the punishment for our sin on Himself. Jesus Christ, the Son of God, was tortured and died on the cross for our sin so that we could be forgiven. Three days later Jesus rose from the dead, just as He said He would. And He now offers you a relationship with Him. One of the most amazing statements in the Bible is this one, "If we confess our sin, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sin and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

The Most Important Relationship

In your search for intimacy and love, pornography is an empty substitute for real love. We have been created by God to have our intimacy needs met most deeply by God Himself. "For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life." In contrast to the darkness and destruction that pornography can bring to people's lives, Jesus said, "I came that they might have life, and have it more abundantly." God offers you his forgiveness through a relationship with Him. Do you want to ask Him to forgive you and come into your life? You can tell Him right now.

If you need help putting this into words, here is prayer that might help:

"Lord Jesus, I am aware of my sin, and I know that You are also. I ask You to forgive me and cleanse me. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. I ask You to come into my life right now and begin to work in my life. Direct my life as You see fit. Thank Your for Your forgiveness and for coming into my life right now."